Rx for Marriage Success

Marriage counseling can be very helpful to married couples who are having major difficulties. Let me say that before anything else. We have great relationships with counselors around the United States and have many who are part of our organization. But, do all couples with issues need marriage counseling? Furthermore, is it the most successful route to take to rebuild love and intimacy? The answer to both questions is "no." Marriage counseling can be helpful and is necessary for certain situations, but it has it shortcomings. First of all, a licensed therapist or counselor must first determine the problems and issues in a relationship. With the usual one-hour session per week, this could take several months. After that time new issues may have entered the picture that will harm the relationship even as the counselor attempts to address the issues he or she has discovered. Second, the counselor has to get into your head. A place where you already have experience. That is a difficult task for anyone! We've found that, between the two of them, most married couples know what issues are causing their problems. If both husband and wife are clueless as to what issues are harming their relationship, they certainly need marriage counseling. But if you have an idea of what problems exist (adultery, lack of passion, lack of trust, poor communication, angry outbursts, etc.), our statistics show that you will have faster and more complete results with our "A New Beginning" program (for marriages in crisis) or with our eight-week "Dynamic Marriage" course that is primarily for marriages that are hitting a few bumps in the road or who want to prevent future difficulties. Third, marriage counseling often works off of theories that may or may not match your values. If you want to save your marriage, but your counselor tells your spouse that you aren't good for him or her, you've actually been hurt by the helper. We would never do such a thing unless your life was in danger. If you want to save your marriage, we partner with you to do that. Our goal is to save marriages, whereas a counselor may or may not have that goal. We provide you with advanced tools and techniques to solve the problems that you know exist and the ones that may appear in the future. Marriage counseling. Retrieved August 18, 2009, from Family Dynamics Institute Web site: http://www.familydynamics.net/marriage_counseling.htm